Navigating the Holidays with Care and Sensitivity: Protecting Your Well-Being
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of warmth and joy, but it can also be a challenging period for many people, filled with emotional ups and downs. For those who find the holidays difficult due to a variety of reasons, including toxic relationships and/or personal struggles, it's important to prioritize your well-being. This how-to guide aims to offer a gentle approach to safeguarding your emotional health during the holidays.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Recognize that it's okay to have mixed feelings about the holidays. Many people experience a range of emotions, from happiness and nostalgia to sadness and/or anxiety. Validating your feelings is the first step in taking care of yourself.
Set Gentle Boundaries
Rather than rigid boundaries, consider setting gentle ones. If possible, consider letting those close to you know that you might need some alone time or space during gatherings. Communicate your needs kindly and ensure you're comfortable with the level of interaction.
Plan for Self-Care
Do your best to make self-care a priority during the holidays. Carve out time for activities that bring you comfort and solace, whether it's taking a quiet walk, enjoying a soothing bath, sitting with a good book, or whatever feels good for you. Self-care is a form of self-compassion, and we could all use a little more self-compassion in our lives.
Seek Support, If Needed
If the holidays are particularly challenging due to personal struggles or toxic relationships, don't hesitate to seek support. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend or talking to a therapist or counsellor. Having someone to share your feelings with can provide significant relief.
Choose Your Events Wisely
Be selective about the holiday events you attend. Prioritize those that align with your emotional well-being and bring you genuine joy. You don't have to say yes to every invitation; it's okay to decline gracefully.
Create a Safe Space
Identify a calming and safe space where you can retreat if needed. Whether it's a cozy corner in your home, a friend's place, or some other nearby location, having a refuge can offer emotional relief when dealing with challenging people and situations.
Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness techniques can help you stay present and centered during the holidays. Take a few moments to breathe deeply and ground yourself when you feel overwhelmed. Mindfulness can assist in managing stress and anxiety.
Celebrate in Your Own Way
Remember that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to celebrating the holidays. Do what feels right for you, even if it means deviating from traditional customs. Create your own meaningful rituals that resonate with your emotions and values.
The holidays can be a time of sensitivity and self-reflection for many. By acknowledging your feelings, setting gentle boundaries, planning for self-care, seeking support if needed, and making other small changes that prioritize your emotional health and well-being, you can navigate this holiday season with greater resilience and compassion for yourself. Remember that it's perfectly okay to prioritize your own well-being during the holidays, just as you would any other time of the year.
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With loving compassion,
Nikki Bianchi, RP (Qualifying)